One of the thoughts that come up repeatedly in the minds of many is; why most ladies are single.
The question of why most ladies are still single has been challenging, especially to marriage counselors.
As most of us know, marriage has always been a major concern among young people, and its delay seems to be high, even with all the ‘you must get married this year’’ prophecies from the pulpits.
But the question is;
What could be responsible for the delay in marriage in our time?
In this article, I shall present few possible causes of marital delay:
CAUSES OF MARITAL DELAY
Being ignorant of who you are, what you have, what you can do, and what you should avoid can lead to marital delay.
This explains why one should be adequately informed in preparation for marriage. Premarital counseling plays a major role in helping youths become marriage literate.
Not availing oneself of such premarital counseling sessions can keep one in the dark and cause marital delay.
In as much as you don’t have to marry anyone that comes your way, being over selective is a dangerous extreme.
One of the challenges in making choice is having so many options.
Some who are experiencing marital delay now had many proposals and admirers when they were at the prime of their age and beauty (age 18-26)
For the young ladies, when they are too selective and particular about the shortcomings of those seeking a relationship, they may end up finding themselves on the waiting list.
Many young people experience marital delays because of negative mindsets and philosophy of life.
Such a mindset and or philosophy can be expressed thus:
- I cannot marry in this church or from such a place.
- I cannot say yes to a proposal immediately
- I cannot marry in one room
- The person must be rich.
- I have to test before I marry to be sure.
- I have to date many people to pick the best
- I must marry a virgin because I am a virgin etc.
A girl who grew up in an abusive home where the father beats up the mother – broke up with a guy because he has never hit her in their two years of relationship.
Her mindset is that; physical abuse is part of love.
Another girl broke up with a guy – for having not attempted to have sex with her.
She concluded that he was impotent; despite they were Christians. What a negative mindset?
To be continued …….
How do ladies in question overcome this challenge?
What age bracket is described as late marriage?
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