Have you ever wondered why most pretty ladies are still single?
Men consider a lot of qualities before considering a lady and most a times, many of the ladies are not prepared.
What made a man worked for 7 years for the woman he loved and yet felt like he just worked for 7 days? ‘Value‘ My man doesn’t respect me, is because you are not a ‘Value’- Added-Woman (VAW)
Jacob Did Not Pay Leah’s Bride Price
Do you realized that Jacob did not pay Leah’s bride price?
They gave him Leah as bonus.
This is because she had no value. This was why Jacob had no respect for her and her children, hence he set them as first entourage when he was going to meet his angry brother. If you forced yourself on a man, he may never respect you. If he got you cheaply, he will never respect you.
Add Value to Him
If you are not adding value to his life, he will never respect you. Even after marriage, Leah was begging and buying the attention of her own husband.
Rachael was practically in control of Jacob. Rachael was a shepherd in the midst of her siblings, a profession meant for men. She was in control of her father’s business.
This was what glued Jacob to her. (Gen 29:9) Jacob was still talking with them when Rachel arrived with her father’s flock, for she was a shepherd.
How can boys be in the house and a girl (last daughter of the house) be the one to tend her father’s flock and family business? Industrious nature!
Sex Alone Doesn’t Keep A Man
After Jacob slept with Leah, he still went for Rachael. Sex doesn’t keep a man, value does. Leah had 5 children, Rachael had none, yet Jacob still loved Rachael more than Leah.
Having children is good but adding value is better.
Don’t ever think you can pin a man down with children. If you like give him a nation, if you are not adding value to his life, he will walk away someday.
I’m pleading with our parents not to raise their daughters in a way they will be liabilities to their man.
Ladies Be Industrious
Make your daughter a shepherd before her Jacob arrives. Give her a source of livelihood before marriage. If you want her husband to respect you as In law and value her as a quality wife and real life partner, give her quality character with home training, quality and respectful hand work and education, to ensure a hopeful future for her in her future home. Don’t train her merely because of the bride price you want to collect on her.
Laban wasted the bride price he took for his daughter. But he lived on the flock kept by his daughter even after she was married out.
Why Husbands Go For Housemaids Instead of their Wives
This is why many men fall for their ugly hardworking housemaids than their beautiful house wives. We indirectly train our housemaids to be industrious while we train our daughters to be lazy and dependents. Future will tell.
Be a ‘Value-Added-Woman and your man will respect you.
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